Friday, August 22, 2014
This made perfect sense to me, especially since dating is it's own shit show! So I took my neighbor's and my friend's advice and set dating aside as it's own category and took inventory of household needs. I noticed my neighbors Team of people included: Lawn Guy and Restaurant Owner Guy. Taking care of the yard and having an awesome breakfast are important, so this Team helps make her week easier.
I borrowed Lawn Guy from my neighbor because mowing and whatever else goes into yard work does not fit into my schedule of working full-time and taking care of 3 kids. I also decided my Team would include Deli Guy because egg sandwiches are very important to my mental health and Carpenter Guy to help with painting and projects. Luckily, Carpenter Guy has also turned out to be an amazing babysitter that my kids love. Thankfully, my Uncle lives nearby and is great with plumbing, painting and fixing stuff too.
My Divorce Team basically got me through the school year while I was teaching my First Graders and focusing on starting up a new school.
This summer I had to make a few adjustments because Deli Guy turned out to be a hot mess. So I have now switched to my neighbor's Restaurant Owner Guy for my egg sandwiches. There is a lot less drama that way and the toasted rolls are yummy!
Fortunately I have Lawn Guy's number on speed dial because the past couple of weeks I have been on vacation from work and realized that my back yard needed some major help.
I went out there one afternoon and took a look around and realized that the table was still set from when I had company visit in July of 2013!! Basically right after that visit I started at the new school and never looked back. I hadn't even stepped in my yard since last summer. It looked like the apocalypse happened. Tree branches were down from the winter storms, leaves were still there from last Fall.
I looked around and thought, " are you f-ing kidding me right now?! This is your yard?"
At first I thought, no problem I am a strong, independent woman. I have a few hours and leaf blower I can fix this. But, in the end I only managed to rip up what was left of the lawn and there were moldy leaves and worms flying everywhere. It was beyond disgusting and not feeling very productive.
I thought, "are you f-ing kidding me right now?!"
I came to the realization that a strong, independent woman knows how to admit there may be more qualified people to handle certain things.
I texted Lawn Guy and he showed up with a crew. They removed one of the playscapes, 2 wagons, a picnic table and grill and loads of branches, leaves and misc. shit. They also cut down down the bushes and overgrown stuff back there.
It looks much better! Not good. But, better. Of course without all the mess I can now see that the entire house and foundation need to be painted. UGH!
All in all it is smart to have a Team of people around when you need them. It makes the upkeep of a household less overwhelming. It is just that it is a never-ending thing. There is always something broken, needing to be painted or replaced and taken care of. I have been very spoiled over the years to have had my Dad around to do all of these things and not have to worry. Now that he is sick, I am realizing just how underprepared I am to handle household chores. I feel a little better knowing that if something major is wrong I now have a few people to call.
Although, yesterday my engine light came on in my car and I realized I now need to find Mechanic Guy. My Dad always handled all the car related issues too. He taught me enough to know that the coolant was low and the oil was too. So I was able to replace those. While I was at the gas station doing that Cowboy Hat Wearing Guy stopped to see if I needed help. I let him take a look to be sure I wasn't blowing up the engine. The kids thought it was cool that we met a real life Cowboy. But, unfortunately, it didn't make the engine light go off or the air conditioner come back on. So now on to finding a Mechanic...