Monday, January 4, 2016
EVERYthing is Mama's Business
Excuse me small child that I gave life to???
I took that moment to gently remind The Goofballs that anything that was in my house is MY business including the humans I made and anyone or anything connected to them in any way.
They disagreed very much. But, I reminded them that I had spent a decade of my life with Oz and created an entire family for him so his abandoned pockets and anything in them are also MY business.
I could not help laughing at their protection of Oz and his "business!" FYI- the only things I found were a Dunkin Donuts gift card and chapstick. Not exactly state secrets. But, I appreciated their thoughtfulness in protecting his privacy. I only hope they will extend me the same curtesy if ever needed. Especially since they live with me and spend almost all of their time with me and therefore know much more of my "business" than their fathers.
The jacket search however, did raise some interesting questions. Cenzo immediately seized the opportunity to remind me that I had been married to Oz for quite some time and then he asked the dreaded question…."Why did you get divorced?"
We haven't really had that question in a long, long time. The kids were little when we split up. The boys were 5 at the time and barely remember that fate changing day 3 years ago when Oz moved out and Bella was 2 and barely remembers him ever even living with us.
So it was interesting, in a gut wrenching and devastating way, to hear that question from my sweetest little guy. Especially since it was the week of Christmas. The most dreaded of all holidays for their single Mama.
Since I was blindsided and ill prepared, I bravely faced the 3 children and told them "Life happened to us and we didn't make it through the difficult times together."
Then I waited for about 3 breathes until I could speak again and asked if anyone had any other questions. THANK GOD they all said no!!
If they had said yes, I was prepared to offer them Oz's chapstick and gift card as a bribe to get them to stop asking me heartbreaking questions!